I wish I could say that I felt fantastic about our visit with Dr. Ferber yesterday. Instead, I feel mildly let-down and only a little hopeful. Basically, his nurse (very young, clearly not a parent) took the history, ran it by him, and then he came in and gave us his diagnosis and solution in about 20 minutes. We didn't really address the trauma of early fall, and instead focused on what's going on right now. Dr. Ferber feels that we are expecting Maddox to sleep more than is reasonable (he thinks about 9 hours at night with a 2 hour nap is within the realm of reason) and suggests that we start by keeping M up until 9 p.m. He also suggested implementing a new sticker chart with stickers for staying in his room at bedtime, not calling out at bedtime, staying in his room throughout the night, and not calling out throughout the night.
I think my biggest issue is that I have been getting in to bed about 8:30 lately to try to recap some of the sleep I have lost for the past year. So, staying up til 9 with M, keeping him occupied, just about killed me (even though Al was around and playing, as well). My guess is that we'll eventually dial back bedtime to 8:30 or so, and we'll need to come up with a whole set of activities M enjoys that he can do on his own while we take care of all the stuff that needs taking care of at the end of the day - because I put my PJs on at the same time as M, and hit the bed the minute I left his room.
By the way, he earned 3 stickers last night. He fell asleep right away without calling or coming out, but he was up twice at night - 12:20 and then with a screaming fit (I think bad dream) at 3:40.